Ten years ago, I was not thinking about becoming a foster parent. I was busy taking care of my family and friends’ children. But then, my daughter became a teenager who no longer needed me in the same way, and my husband got a great job as a musician. I Continue reading →
It can be hard to recognize who you were before you became a foster parent. If I would ask my husband who he was before fostering, he would probably respond, “I was not this tore up!”
Unfortunately, it is easier to recall negative experiences over positive, and there is a physiological reason why this happens. The brain handles positive and negative Continue reading →
Everyone loves a comeback. But it’s easy to forget that you can’t have a comeback without first having a setback. A failure.
No one is immune from setbacks. Even someone who achieved as much as Abraham Lincoln faced his share of failures. From 1832-58, he racked up a litany of setbacks Continue reading →
Almost a year ago we adopted our daughter, the girl who had been a part of our family for nearly four years. She came to us as a teeny tiny, vulnerable baby girl, and has grown into a slightly larger, even more beautiful, still vulnerable, baby girl.
Our adoption day was beautiful and perfect, and a little anti-climatic after considering our daughter a part of our family and our hearts for so long.
Instead of a huge adoption party, we chose to celebrate with Continue reading →
Six years ago, our family said “Yes” to foster care having no idea where it would lead us. What started for us as a hope to adopt became a deeper understanding of the need and Continue reading →
It might sound like an unlikely connection, but a good approach toward being a foster parent — and working with all the people involved in a foster child’s life — can be found in the story of Harley-Davidson.
Not too long ago, more than a quarter of a million people came to Milwaukee to celebrate the 100-year anniversary of this great company. But things weren’t always Continue reading →
It was spring 2011 when our first foster child was brought to our home. Over the years that followed, our hearts grew and broke in ways we never anticipated.
We went into foster care hoping that we would get the chance to adopt. Sadly, this caused us to start our journey closed off to a large population of those hurting within the foster care system — the biological family. Continue reading →
Why … three simple letters and one simple question. A question that foster parents know all too well because they have been asked it over and over and over again — by their beloved family members, closest friends and total strangers. It’s a question that is Continue reading →
In just a few weeks, we will be adopting our third child in two years. Let me just say that three years ago, this was not in our plans at all.
We had this beautiful girl who had been in our home since she was 3 months old. We were (and still are) completely in love with her; she had become my heartbeat along with my biological children.
Then one beautiful spring day while playing at the park we got “The Call.” Continue reading →
The “I’ll do it someday” people never change the world. It’s the “I’ll do it anyway” people who make a difference.
Many aspects of fostering are difficult and even heartbreaking. So, how do people stay licensed foster parents year after year and child after child? How do they endure Continue reading →