Look in any dictionary and the word “mother” will be defined as a noun. However, we as foster parents define it as a verb. Because for us, being a mother is not just who we are, it’s what we do.
When you were a child, which definition of mother, noun or verb, was your cheerleader, your soft place to fall, your safety, your protector, or your love? I venture to say it was the one with the action attached to it. The verb.
For those of you who think you could never mother a child who is not yours, I ask you to think again.
We as foster parents don’t seek to replace those who share the same DNA of those that have been placed in our charge; we are simply running the race that could not be continued, for whatever reason, until their family can start again.
I am asking each of you reading this blog post to respond and post a comment. Let us know in what ways, big or small, you have “mothered” someone you did not give birth to. Guys, it’s okay to admit you mother people too.
Paulette is a foster and adoptive parent. She works at Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin as a foster parent liaison, providing support, offering encouragement and advocating for foster parents throughout all phases of fostering and adoption.