Be careful what we post on Facebook about our foster children (and ourselves) — 3 Comments

  1. The simple thing to do here is to keep all of your settings on private. Plus I think it would be irresponsible for a placement agency to look at pictures on social media and make a determination that way, much in the same way it would be wrong to take something someone said out of context. I would hope due diligence would prevent this.

    • I leaned that a the classes , I even have adopted my grandson I never post nothing negative I know like you said be careful what you post

  2. I think that the whole world is going digital and social media is now the norm. I don’t think the foster care agencies can really hide foster children online who don’t want to be hidden or in the shadow, nor can they censor social media. And if a parent doesn’t post any photos, there is no guarantee that a friend won’t (after all teens have smart phones too).

    What I suggest is a different approach to this problem. Instead of banning social media and photography, to look at this with the risk factors. The first thing a foster child should know growing up in the digital age is their real life story. The days of hiding the truth from foster and adopted children till they are 18 are over.

    Next, they should realize that the more internet presence they have, the less likely CPS and the foster care agency are going to have 100% control of contact. Today a teen who is tech savvy may be able to contact a birth parent, sibling, or cousin without CPS even knowing, or the birth relative doing the same. So as the result, it is a good idea to give reasons for privacy. However, this doesn’t mean banning the child from using social media either. I think the best approach is to set privacy settings limiting views to friends. On the other hand, if a foster or adopted child wants to be open online or create content and have it go viral, they should understand that once they do this, information posted online cannot be taken back.

    Next, if a foster or child is determined to make contact with a previous relative without CPS approval before they are 18 using the the internet, chances are it will happen and the social workers need to start the preparations early. Foster and adoption agencies should not guarantee 100% control of contact, nor promise it. People need to realize that as a child’s level of technical skills, ability to remember information, rebelliousness, and reading comprehension increase, the amount of control CPS will have over contact arrangements may diminish.

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