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How I overcame my doubt and concerns about becoming a foster parent — 8 Comments

  1. Megan, You are a true inspiration to our family and to all those lives you have been blessed to be a part of. When I was told you were going to be a foster parent I was thrilled. Working as a CASA volunteer, I knew that whatever child was placed in your and Will’s care would truly be loved and blessed beyond belief. May God continue to bless you with an abundance of love and bouquets of flowers for years to come. Hugs and kisses to your little boy. Love you.

    • Thank you! Sometimes it really amazes me to think about all we would have missed if we would have “bought” into some of those fears. We feel unbelieably lucky to have met our little guy!

  2. Megan- I really, really want to become a foster parent, but my husband is reluctant. We have four children of our own, they are wonderful children, they are on board with possibly becoming a foster family. My husband says he just wants to watch our children grow and let go of diapers, feedings, and car seats. My heart aches because I worked closely with our county’s CPS agency, I know how desperate they are for foster parents, and I know my husband and I would make great ones. Did your husband have any doubts? I keep trying to gently convince him, but I am afraid if I push too hard, I will turn him off to the idea altogether. Like you, billboards, radio ads, commercials have only fed my desire to foster parent. I feel called, but at the same time stuck. If you have any insight, I would love to hear it. Thank you for sharing your story. Perhaps, I will show him, and see what he says.

    • Hi Heather,

      My name is Will, I am Megan’s husband. I certainly had doubts, all of them real concerns, all of them selfish. Megan and I took in our then foster son in the second year of my PhD program, and adopted him in year three. We purposefully did not have our own family, because we wanted to wait until I was done with school, as being a full-time PhD student, working on a second Master’s degree, doing research and teaching is 2 full time jobs. Of course, it made no sense to do this now, and was easy to say we will do it, but not until (fill in the blank). In the end it was a spiritual decision. Megan and I believe in the Christian faith, and it is a faith that calls us to stand up for the oppressed, to support widows and orphans, and, most of all, to love. I felt that God put it on our hearts to do and I decided I could not ignore it, could not live only for my own cause. I don’t know if that helps, but really it came to a point where it was not much of a decision. As Megan said in her article, they are just kids, the need to be loved and deserved to be loved. I have worked with many inner-city and “disadvantaged” youth, and despite any problems they have, they are just kids and need to be loved. I would be happy to discuss with you or your husband if you wanted to follow-up.

    • Thank you for your message Heather! As you can see, I reached out to my husband specifically to see what his thoughts were. I do want to mention, that becoming a foster family impacts every individual in your home, and I feel that it is important to have EVERYONE on board. As mentioned, we would be happy to speak more with you and your family about what it’s like and how we over came our own fears and doubts, but in the end it should be a family decision. Good luck and on’t hesitate to reach out again for more!

      • Will and Megan-
        Thank you very much for your time in replying to my message. As you might imagine with four children we are on the go constantly and this is the first I have had a chance to reply. We are heading into our “down time” now and I think it may be the perfect time to talk again to my husband about preparing to become foster parents. I’ll admit, by no means are we perfect parents, but we have a lot of love to give. My oldest two children understand what foster parenting is and would really like to do it, my younger two don’t really understand the entire concept, but are open children and very accepting of others. We will have to make sure they understand what it means for them if we move forward. If I can get my husband to talk about it, I may take you up on your offer to speak a little more with the two of you. Thank you.

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