What “mother” means as a foster parent

Look in any dictionary and the word “mother” will be defined as a noun. However, we as foster parents define it as a verb. Because for us, being a mother is not just who we are, it’s what we do.

When you were a child, which definition of mother, noun or verb, was your cheerleader, your soft place to fall, your safety, your protector, or your love? I venture to say it was the one with the action attached to it. The verb.

For those of you who think you could never mother a child who is not yours, I ask you to think again.

We as foster parents don’t seek to replace those who share the same DNA of those that have been placed in our charge; we are simply running the race that could not be continued, for whatever reason, until their family can start again.

I am asking each of you reading this blog post to respond and post a comment. Let us know in what ways, big or small, you have “mothered” someone you did not give birth to. Guys, it’s okay to admit you mother people too.

- Paulette Drankiewicz, foster parent liaison, Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin

Paulette is a foster and adoptive parent. She works at Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin as a foster parent liaison, providing support, offering encouragement and advocating for foster parents throughout all phases of fostering and adoption.


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What “mother” means as a foster parent — 4 Comments

  1. i have all the respect for parents who take in children who are not biologically theres but love them with all there heart. i have seen up close and personal the love and care that a foster parent can give these children. God bless you all . amen.

  2. I HAVE CONSIDERED BEING A FOSTER PARENT FOR A LONG TIME.I HAVE A 15YR OLD DAUGHTER AND A 22YR OLD AUTISTIC SON THERE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A REASON FOR ME NOT TO LOOK FURTHER INTO BECOMING A FOSTER PARENT 1. I DONT DRIVE 2. I ONLY HAVE A THREE BEDROOOM HOME 3. I RENT. PLEASE HELP ME TO DECIDE.

    • Hi Yvette-
      Thanks for the post. What I encourage you to do while you are seeking your hearts desire is to call (414) KID-HERO (that’s 414-543-4376) and register for a New Family Informational Meeting. At that point, you can meet a real live foster parent (could be me!!) and a social worker who can give you more informtion to help you decide.
      You don’t need to drive and a 3 bedroom house, which, by the way is the same that I have, poses NO problems to foster.
      I look forward to meeting you one day-please keep me posted on your decisions or contact me for further information.
      Blessings to you!
      Paulette

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